Demystifying the Process of Matching Bigs and Littles

Why the Wait is Worth It: The Careful Process Behind Matching Volunteer Mentors with Youth

When people first learn about the Big Sisters’ programs, they’re often surprised by the time it can take to be matched with a mentee. While we understand and appreciate the excitement of wanting to make a difference, it’s important to emphasize the care and consideration that needs to go into making the perfect match.

At the heart of both our 1:1 programs—Big Sisters and Study Buddy—lies the goal of creating a lasting, supportive relationship. We want to foster deep connections that help youth thrive, not just for a few weeks or months, but for years to come. That’s why we take the time to ensure that each match is the right fit.

The Key to a Lasting Relationship: Compatibility

The most important factor in creating a successful match is compatibility. We believe that when mentors and mentees are well-matched, it leads to stronger, more effective relationships. These connections are rooted in shared interests, cultural understanding, and, most importantly, the ability to relate to one another.

In our matching process, we consider several key factors:

1. Location: We strive to make matches that are geographically convenient for both the mentor and the youth. This allows for regular, reliable meetings, making the relationship more sustainable in the long run.
2. Shared Interests: Whether it’s a love of reading, sports, or a passion for the arts, we want mentors and mentees to have common ground that sparks authentic conversations and activities.
3. Cultural and Social Similarities: A shared cultural background or understanding of each other’s experiences can be a powerful foundation for a trusting relationship. This is especially important in our programs, where many of our youth face unique challenges that require a mentor who can truly empathize and connect.
4. Shared Lived Experiences: Sometimes, a mentor’s past experiences—whether they relate to overcoming obstacles, navigating school challenges, or managing family dynamics—can help them provide a deeper level of support to a youth. We look for mentors who can offer guidance based on their own life lessons.

Why It Takes Time

Given the complexity of these factors, it’s not always easy to find the perfect match right away. Each potential match involves careful consideration, discussion, and sometimes even a bit of trial and error to ensure the pairing will be successful.

We want to ensure that each match has the potential to:

• Foster a genuine connection: The relationship should feel natural, with both mentor and youth excited to spend time together.
• Promote long-term growth: Both the youth and the mentor should gain something valuable from the experience—whether that’s academic support in the Study Buddy program or emotional guidance and confidence-building in the Big Sisters program.
• Provide stability: Youth in our programs often face significant challenges at home, at school, or in their social lives. A mentor is a source of consistency and trust, which is why the process of finding the right person to fill this role is so crucial.

What Happens After a Match Is Made?

Once a match is made, the work doesn’t stop there. Our team supports both mentors and youth throughout the relationship to ensure it remains strong and effective. We provide regular check-ins, offer guidance, and ensure that both mentors and youth have the tools they need to make the most of their time together.

Mentors also receive ongoing training and support to help them navigate the complexities of their relationships with youth. We provide resources and advice on everything from academic support to handling sensitive topics, ensuring that every mentor feels prepared and supported in their role.

Real Stories, Real Impact

The results of our careful matching process speak for themselves. Many of our mentors and youth form bonds that last for years. Whether it’s seeing a youth’s academic confidence soar in the Study Buddy program or watching a young person blossom in their personal growth through the Big Sisters program, the connections made through these programs are life-changing.

Here are just a few of the incredible outcomes that stem from carefully matched relationships:

• Increased Academic Success: In the Study Buddy program, many youth show remarkable improvements in their grades, school engagement, and overall confidence. Mentors help youth set academic goals, stay motivated, and improve study habits.
• Confidence and Resilience: Youth in the Big Sisters program develop better self-esteem, independence, and leadership skills. Mentors offer the support and guidance needed to help youth navigate challenges at school, home, and in their social lives.
• Long-Term Relationships: Many of our mentors and mentees continue their relationships beyond the initial commitment, developing deep friendships that endure long after the formal match ends.

Patience Pays Off

We understand that waiting for a match can be tough, especially when you’re eager to make a difference. However, by taking the time to find the right fit, we ensure that your efforts, and those of your mentee, will have the greatest impact. We want both the mentors and youth to feel excited and supported in this life-changing experience.

So, if you’re ready to be part of something special, rest assured that the wait is worth it. We promise it will be a rewarding, fulfilling journey for both you and the young person you’ll help guide and mentor.

Ready to Make a Difference? Become a Mentor Today!

If you’re ready to make a lasting impact, we encourage you to explore our mentoring opportunities in the Big Sisters and Study Buddy programs. Learn more about becoming a mentor and start your journey today!